A man's reach should exceed his grasp.

Appall?

I've heard said that a woman's always does . . . but is that not an insult?

Maybe, maybe not. The decision depends on one's re-reading:

1. A woman's reach exceeds her grasp.

2. A woman's reach exceeds his grasp.

Arguably, number one is insulting, but number two is not.

Arguably, both are insulting.

Arguably, neither is insulting.

Homework: Think!